An Important Update
Yesterday I met my girlfriend's mother, an important experience I've been wanting to have for many months. She didn't speak English, and even though I could understand some of what she said, I can't really speak Korean yet. I was nervous, of course. Chae Young translated for us, her English having improved dramatically over the last half year or so. I was touched to have the meeting.
6 Comments:
Is Your girlfriend's mother in approval of foreign marriage? if so, you're lucky!
I think it was more a matter of assent than approval, but you're right that I'm lucky. However, we're worried about the father, who doesn't know yet. The mother told me he might be angry, but I should be patient and he will come around in the end.
Assa! Congratulations are in order man.
Thank you, my blogging friend! I've also met her neice, a nephew from a different family, and the nephew's mother. It's exciting!
Hi Nathan.
Back when I was at SFU in Vancouver I dated a Korean girl that I met on campus.
She lived with her sister and Mother and her father lived in Korea and would come to visit every six months or so.
She told me that if her father found out we were 'boyfriend and girlfrien' that he would probably throw her out of the house.
I couldn't even phone her house to ask for her because she was afraid of her Mom knowing as well.
Chinese parents, many but not all of course, also don't dig 'White boys" with their daughters.
I've even asked Chinese girls that I new in university about why I seldom, if ever, saw them dating White guys. It seems that their parents don't really think we're motivated enough (lazy is the word one girl used to describe her parents attitude towards White guys in Canada) to succeed in life.
This was all about 7 years ago and things may be slowly changing.
Thanks, Rice Paddy Daddy for your comment. Interesting about your days at SFU. I grew up in Port Coquitlam, a suburb of Vancouver, as you likely know. I've always seen many interracial couples there.
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